Well Folks, I went out with a guy from Match.com. It was the guy I was suppose to call on Tuesday. He actually sent me a text that same evening asking if I wanted to meet for a wine tasting. Since this was out of the ordinary, I skipped the exercise class that I normally go to with a friend on Tuesdays.
I met him at a wine shop not too far from my house. I’ve never been to anything like this before. It’s sort of the Starbucks of wine shops. They have a huge selection of wine and a refrigerated area with other types of beverages and also a selection of cheese. The room was divided in half by a long two shelf bookshelf. On the other side of the store was a bar in the back and a seated area made up of tables made with barrels. You can buy single glasses of wine or they will serve the wine (and cheese) you purchase there.
On the bookshelf there was a chessboard and backgammon game. People can meet there to play games. The wine shop had a really great atmosphere and it is a place I would go back to hang out. I realize I gave you all these details about the wine shop and you’re probably waiting to hear about the guy, it’s just I was so taken with this place.
The guy was super. He was very friendly, great to talk with, nice looking, very intelligent, very open, and affectionate. We had a lot of things in common- a love of dogs, trucks, and being outside just to name a few. He was also quite savvy to remember things from my profile and point out when relevant things came up. After we shared a bottle of wine, we went to another restaurant not too far away and had appetizers. As the conversation continued we discovered other things we had in common. And I was even given a foot massage.
The next day I had a bit of a glow. It was so refreshing to have met a nice, normal guy- one that matched the image in my head of a how I would like a guy to be. Someone stable and fun to be with fun with.
But…yes there is a but. I didn’t feel a spark. I could tell from the goodnight kiss. But he was so great in every other way, I wanted to think I was being mature and I would rather have a great guy than a guy I was passionate about but couldn’t depend on. (I realize there is probably someone out there who can fulfill both requirements, but it gets tiring waiting for that.)
Now that I’ve had some time to let the dust settle, I can’t forgo the passion. We haven’t gone out a second time yet, though he alluded to doing something very cool next weekend, so I will still hold of making a final decision for a bit. However, in the past the chemistry has never emerged. He is a totally awesome guy and I really would like to be friends and still hangout with him. I even thought about introducing him to my friends and maybe he will hit it off with one of them. (It’s probably not good who you think of this during the date, huh?)
I’ve been keeping up with Match.com and there is another guy who I’m supposed to call. He gave me his number yesterday but its been a busy weekend, so I haven’t been able to call yet. I don’t feel as reluctant to call after having things turn out nicely with Guy #1.